In life, some things stay with us
and some things are lost. People, of course, enter and leave our lives in the
same way that beloved pets do. Loss through death is an experience that none of
us can avoid. It’s been rightly said that loss is a part of life, but while many
losses leave us in sadness, there are losses
that are just part of life’s natural process, not all that difficult to accept
and often for the best.
There are two major psychological responses by individuals
when adjusting to loss: (1) the use of coping mechanisms, and (2) emotional
reactions. There is, however, a third component in the “psychology” of loss
that deals with “cutting” and “coming to terms with” our losses (however large
or small those losses may be).
Poetry often speaks a language of loss and, while losses
come in all magnitudes, let’s not think in terms of major losses this week. Instead
of agonizing over a serious loss, let’s consider a leaving or a letting go that
was not devastating and perhaps even
for the best. For example, we all
lose things that are special to us (a family keepsake, an article of clothing
that makes us recall a special time or event, a stuffed animal that remembers
childhood, a piece of jewelry with special reasons for attachment, a good luck
charm, a book). We all lose such things along the way. Remember: this week,
we’re not writing about people or pets but, rather, about things.
Guidelines:
1. Write a poem titled or based on, “I Had It Once, But I
Don’t Need It Now.”
2. Write a poem titled, “Thanksgrieving” about a loss for
which you were ultimately thankful.
3. Related to the above, take an inventory of your
blessings and things for which you’re grateful and include some of them in a
poem about a loss.
4. Write a poem about a loss that ended in good.
5. Write a poem about letting something go—a letting go
that was for the best.
6. Write a poem about an object that you once treasured
but no longer have. Why was it important? What happened to it?
7. Write a poem in which you re-find something that you
lost.
8. Write a poem in which a loss unexpectedly lent itself
to the good and meaningful in your life.
9. Write a poem from the perspective of a treasured object
that you’ve lost.
10. Write a poem addressed to a treasured object that
you’ve lost.
Tips:
1. Start by making a list of words that deal with the
subject of loss.
2. Choose some of the words from your list to include in
your poem.
3. Think of a loss to write about—one over which you had
no control or one that you chose., and remember that the loss can’t be a person
or pet.
4. Think about what your poem says at the
sub-meaning level through syllables, sonic impression (sound), images, and word
choice.
5. Remember that a good poem should have at least two
subjects: the obvious subject and the not-so-obvious. Think about your content
and what you really want to say about your subject. Dig deeply. Don’t settle
for what you meant to write.
6. Let the loss you choose to write about lead you into
another “place.” Evoke a feeling of loss (or some sense of it) within a larger
context.
7. Spend time during revision on your line and stanza
lengths.
A. Is there a reason for your
line lengths? For example, is your poem skinny and, if so, why? If you’ve used
longer lines, how does the line length serve the poem’s meaning?
B. Try some enjambments.
(Enjambment occurs when a phrase carries over a line-break
without a major pause. In French, the word “enjambing” means “straddling” and, in poetry, enjambment means that one line “straddles the next.”) When you read an enjambed line, the
sense of it encourages you to keep right on reading the next line, without
stopping for a breather.
B. Have you used irregular (aleostrophic)
stanzas and why?
C. If your poem
appears as a single stanza (stichic), can you work it into a line scheme such
as couplets, tercets, etc.?
D. If you
typically write with a certain line or stanza length, try to get out
of your comfort zone (or rut) and try something different. Be sure that line
and stanza lengths fit the meaning of the poem and how you wish to express it.
Examples:
“Loss”
by Carl Adamshick
“Token
Loss” by Kay Ryan
“Reluctance”
by Robert Frost